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Addiction and Recovery: A 12 Year Old’s View

Addiction and Recovery: A 12 Year Old’s View

The last couple of years my oldest boy Jude has talked about things that happened in the past, and how things have changed for the better now that I accepted help for my addiction to oxys (oxycontin a narcotic pain killer). This is his recollection, testimony or testimonial of the time leading up to me going to rehab and the way things are today. These are his words (with only some grammatical errors corrected). He said it was fine for me to share with you so that people can gain the perspective of what a child experiences when their mom or dad is addicted. Although reading it brings back uncomfortable memories of what I put my family through, it is a true reflection of what Jude experienced. Thank you Jude for sharing and I love you!

addiction and family“My name is Jude I am 12 years old and 4 years ago my dad was hooked on oxys. We lived in Alberta, Canada and we were dairy farmers. I was only 8 or younger when my dad was hooked on oxys so I don’t really remember what it was like but I remember a little. Every other night my dad would go out to a town an hour away and I would go with him. We would always go to subway, sometimes go swimming and usually got home at around 9.

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Procrastination and Addiction

Procrastination won’t get you results

Procrastination or putting off till tomorrow what you could tackle today is a recipe for disaster. If addiction is controlling your life, tomorrow may not be an option. Many people procrastinate too long and unfortunately end up going to the bitter ends of jails, institutions or worse death. Today through the help of the twelve steps and/or addiction treatment there are options for you or your loved ones to have a better life. There is no need to continue just existing, why not start really living life and enjoying all the blessings the world has to offer.

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As most of us like to procrastinate to a certain extent (homework, cleaning house, etc) we come to accept that putting off until tomorrow is not such a big deal. But, to an addict who is still struggling to quit using it could mean life or death. Excuses become rampant as to why they can’t quit today (a job, family, it’s not so bad yet). Procrastinate getting help long enough and it could become “never“.

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Married to an Addict: A Wife’s Perspective

My life married to an addict…….after Rehab: The wife’s perspective.

I was petrified picking up my husband from rehab, it was Fricken scary! I was so angry at him for what he had put me and our two sons through! For what he had done to himself.
For weeks after that initial day I could not trust him, every time he went to town or anywhere, I wondered if he was going to use again? Where was he really going?

My painful past was still so fresh in my mind that it consumed me!
I wanted security and happiness back!

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How Do I Get My Loved One into Rehab?

How Do I Get My Loved One into Rehab?

The person you love isn’t here anymore. Whether your child, spouse or friend is a hollow-eyed shadow of the person you remember from the past, alcohol or drug rehab treatment is one way to try and help save him or her. But can you get your loved one into treatment even if they haven’t been willing to take the step themselves? YES!!

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That doesn’t mean it will be easy. It can be difficult but not impossible to convince someone you love that they need addiction treatment. This is about your loved one’s life. Helping them get the treatment they deserve may be the only chance they have to overcome their addiction.

Following are some do’s and don’ts for getting your loved one into drug rehab treatment:

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Reasons Addicts Avoid Going to Rehab

Reasons Addicts Avoid Going to Rehab

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When we speak with the loved ones of addicts, they are often frustrated watching the person they love continue to avoid treatment. One of their most common questions is, “Why do addicts avoid rehab?”

It can be frustrating, but there is a way you can help. By understanding the reasons addicts avoid going to an addictio treatment center, you can support and encourage your loved one to seek help:

1. Denial “I don’t have a problem!”

Some addicts are in denial. They do not believe they have a problem with drugs or alcohol, or they believe they can stop whenever they want. If this is the reason your loved one gives for avoiding rehab, lovingly ask why, if they don’t have a problem, they continue to use even though their use has negative consequences on their personal and professional life.

2. “It costs too much!”

The concern about cost is one of the most common reasons why addicts avoid treatment, and it is a valid concern. Rehab can be expensive, but that should not be the reason you or your loved one avoids treatment. At Always Hope we are a low-cost alternative to make treatment available to all financial circumstances.

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Addiction is also very expensive — maintaining a substance abuse habit is incredibly costly on its own. Additionally, the consequences of a continued addiction, such as medical care, therapy or divorce, can be significantly more expensive than rehab. Depending on your situation, you may also find that rehab is tax deductible.

3. “I don’t have the time!”

For many addicts, they fear they’ll lose their job if they take time off for rehab. The truth is that many are already on the path to lose there job or lost it already.

4. “Rehab doesn’t work!”

In many cases, if an addict has been to a treatment centre and relapsed after treatment, or they have a friend who has relapsed after treatment, they believe rehab doesn’t work. The truth is, many addicts who have been through treatment may relapse one or more times before they are successful in their recovery. This should not be a reason to avoid treatment, since those who complete rehab have a higher chance of recovering without relapse.

Conclusion:

With an understanding of why so many addicts avoid going, you can approach your loved one with resources in hand to help convince them to begin treatment right away. Help them sort through their concerns, work with them to arrange leave from work, straighten out their finances and/or connect them with someone who has completed rehab with great success.

If you or someone you love is avoiding getting help for addiction, now is the time to take action. Contact us at Always Hope for help and any other questions.

 

Caution: Warning Signs

Caution: Warning Signs

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HALT-B

H – Hungry     A – Angry      L – Lonely     T – Tired      B – Bored

HALT-B is an anagram for the most common reasons for relapse.

Take caution if your hungry, this may sound silly but it has been found that the human brain, once addicted to a substance, will reach for this substance as a cure for any discomfort as it cannot discern between needs. A person will get a craving to drink, even though he/she is really just having hunger pangs and a quick healthy snack can resolve the craving to drink or drug.

SOLUTION – HAVE A BITE TO EAT.

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Not Like a Prison; a Testimonial

Not Like a Prison; a Testimonial

“Always Hope was the perfect recovery centre for my needs and this is my testimonial or testimony that it can work. I had been to 2 other treatment centres in the past 6 months, but I walked in the front door and out the back within a few days due to the prison like atmosphere. As Always Hope only takes a maximum of 5 clients at a time, you are privileged with plenty of 1-1 counselling with a great counsellor who has many years of experience as well as having been in my shoes in the past.

The people helping you at Always Hope have been through the same or similar struggles so they come from a perspective of experience which gave me another level of respect for the centre. There is a caring family/friendship atmosphere and not like a prison. I am a professional in my career and was able to continue to function and help with my business back home while accepting treatment and help with my addiction to alcohol.

I highly recommend Always Hope treatment centre to any individual or anyone struggling with the confinement and constraints of other centres. The tropical atmosphere is amazing, and there are 12 step meetings available 7 days a week with a great small group.”

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Conflict Resolution and Recovering

Conflict

“We learn that conflicts are a part of reality, and we learn new ways to resolve them instead of running from them.”

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From time to time, we all experience conflicts. It may be that we just can’t get along with that new co-worker. Maybe our friends are driving us crazy. Or perhaps our partner isn’t living up to our expectations. Dealing with any conflict is difficult for recovering addicts.

When tempers rise, it is often a good idea to back away from the situation until cooler minds prevail. We can always return to further discussion when we have calmed down. We can’t avoid troubling situations, but we can use time and distance to find perspective.

Conflict is a part of life. We can’t go through our entire recovery without encountering disagreements and differences of opinion. Sometimes we can back away from these situations, taking time to reflect on them, but there always comes a time when conflict must be resolved. When that time comes, we take a deep breath, say a prayer, and apply the principles our program has given us: honesty, openness, responsibility, forgiveness, trust, and all the rest. We didn’t get clean to keep running from life – and in recovery, we don’t have to run anymore.

Just for Today: The principles my program has given me are sufficient to guide me through any situation. I will strive to confront conflict in a healthy way.

Basic Text, p. 90

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Serenity Now! Always Hope saved me.

Serenity Now!

I thank Always Hope for saving my life

Making the decision to seek help was, undoubtedly, one of the hardest decisions I have ever made. However, after talking to Jim and Roger, I was confident that Always Hope Treatment Centre was the perfect place for me to get the help I desperately needed. It truly was one of the best things I have ever done for myself and this is my testimonial or testimony.

Suffering with a cocaine addiction for the past four years was hell. Not only had I become estranged from my family and friends, but my finances and my career were in serious jeopardy. I had tried everything I could think of to beat my cocaine addiction. Nothing worked. My frustration only grew and my self-esteem and confidence only continued to dwindle. The world seemed to be closing in on me and I had no-where to turn. I really doubted that anyone could help me. It was one of the darkest times of my life.

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Not Just a Number, but a Welcome Guest

Not Just a Number, but a Welcome Guest

My testimonial or testimony in regards to Always Hope. Making the decision to seek help was, undoubtedly, one of the hardest decisions I have ever made. However, after talking to Jim and Roger, I was confident that Always Hope Treatment Centre was the perfect place for me to get the help I desperately needed. It truly was one of the best things I have ever done for myself.

Suffering with a cocaine addiction for the past four years was hell. Not only had I become estranged from my family and friends, but my finances and my career were in serious jeopardy. I had tried everything I could think of to beat my cocaine addiction. Nothing worked. My frustration only grew and my self-esteem and confidence only continued to dwindle. The world seemed to be closing in on me and I had no-where to turn. I really doubted that anyone could help me. It was one of the darkest times of my life.

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